Friday, October 19, 2007


How can two people continue to be in a relationship knowing that there is no future? I know it's unreasonable to think so much about the future when you are just getting to know someone. But once both of you know that there is more to it than just flirting around or going out together, don't you sit and think about it?

Doesn't it bother you that any moment, this beautiful thing might come to an end? Or do people blindly believe in the 'Ignorance is Bliss' policy, behaving like an Ostrich, sticking their neck into the sand, hoping and praying that the inevitable just happens to pass them by? You can't continue to look the other way, who will tell them that?

Some say it's not necessary that you get to marry the one you love, but that shouldn't stop you from loving. BULLSHIT! What will you gain from pursuing such an "arrangement"? Are people so hungry for love or are they in love with the idea of falling in love that they forget that it is not just about physical intimacy, it has more to do with emotional intimacy. Unless the former is more important, in which case it can be just termed as an affair or fling, not love.

Who am I to preach about love? Well, honestly, no one. But when I see people around me act so foolishly, plunging head long into it knowing fully well of the consequences, all I can do is grind my teeth and bare it. Even as a friend, you need to be in certain boundaries. You cannot tell your friends to just get it over with and stop torturing themselves further, especially when they look to you for that ever needed shoulder to cry on. You can just go so far. One step more, one word more and you might be misunderstood and in the worst case, asked to mind your own business in the coldest manner possible. After that, it can only go downhill from there.

"Cherish the moments as long as they last" will most probably be their excuse. "Don't act stupid!" would be mine. There is nothing to be gained from pursuing something that does and will continue to cause you pain. The sooner you end it, easier will it be to move on.

1 comment:

  1. u have just 'reflected' similar sentiments of mine in ur words! :)

    'These' (??) relationships which are beyond definitions (i skipped the part 'in an indian culture' or rather 'non-westernized' culture) are seriously smthin i never want to pursue! But, faith plays a dirty trick..and i hope i don't fall prey to one of those!